How to Find Helpful Anxiety Therapy in Downtown Vancouver
By Katherine Young, M.Ed, Registered Clinical Counsellor, Vancouver, BC.
A google search about anxiety reveals reams of sites with lists of symptoms, types of anxiety disorders and lists of descriptors. These are all helpful, however, for me there is always something missing in those descriptions.
Explanations tend to include what people with anxiety experience, what it isn’t, and even how to manage it. But, the question remains, what is anxiety actually and how can we root it out in counselling, not just manage it, but actually feel calmer and more confident?
I would like to propose an explanation of anxiety rather than merely describe its surface properties. Anxiety is fear of fear, where the original fear arises in the face of unsettling inner feelings, or external threats that are unpredictable and unknown.
Counselling can be very helpful to people struggling with anxiety because fear needs to be handled carefully. If we are too hasty, fear can overwhelm and result in increased symptoms.
Fear and How We Cope With It
Fear is an incredibly uncomfortable state many of us will avoid at all costs. Our vulnerability in the face of the realities of life is a very painful recognition, one that can cause significant physical, emotional and mental agitation. In response, we develop all kinds of strategies, otherwise known as defense mechanisms to avoid or control this basic and ultimately unavoidable experience. Learning what defenses you tend to use, can be invaluable in understanding how you shape your experience.
And yet it is possible to walk so closely with your own fear in counselling that you discover your ability to ride it out, to launch into the unknown with relative confidence, to actually learn to enjoy the ride. As this calm develops, and anxiety begins to lessen, clients will relinquish defense mechanisms as they become both conscious and unnecessary.
How anxiety feels
Anxiety manifests in extreme physical sensations that can feel overwhelming. Just as fear can escalate to the fear of fear, and fear of fear of fear, anxiety symptoms may escalate as well to panic attacks, avoidance and phobias.
Some Anxiety Symptoms
- Feeling apprehensive
- Feeling powerless
- Sense of impending danger, panic or doom
- Increased heart rate
- Breathing rapidly
- Feeling weak or tired
- Stomach problems—nausea and/or diarrhea
- Problems sleeping
- Excessive worries
- Irrational thinking
In fact, many people living in Vancouver experience anxiety symptoms such as above as well as many other possible symptoms. Essentially, anxiety is an unmistakable, pressing feeling of nervousness. It is associated with tension, stress and agitation prompting activity. We have all experienced this feeling at one time or another, but sometimes for some people anxiety is repetitive, persistent and to varying degrees, debilitating.
Fear and Anxiety are Part of Life
Life can be frightening. The very fact that we are alive, we have the freedom to make choices and decide how we will respond to our circumstances is in itself daunting. In counselling, clients learn that allowing their vulnerability and moving through whatever fears or discomforts come to the surface is a much more resilient and effective approach than trying to create ‘strength’ by imposing control over themselves and their environment. In this sense, vulnerability is actually the seat of our strength.
By learning to take action toward their deepest wishes and desires, by learning to stay open and embrace life instead of tightening up and shutting down, by allowing inner sensations and emotions to flow through the body, Vancouver clients can learn to live fully and deeply thus effectively addressing this type of existential anxiety.
Eventually a new acceptance comes: time is passing and we are aging, but I am living well.
“People living deeply have no fear of death.” -Anais Nin
Sometimes anxiety arises in the face of real, external threat. In addition, Vancouver is a fast-paced city. The stress and rush of everyday life in a modern world can overload our nervous systems making fear and anxiety an even greater probability.
Peeling back the layers, in therapy, gradually we arrive at the fear of the specific external threat itself. If we can stay with it, attend to it, witness and hold it, the fear dissipates and the anxious mood is relieved. Learning to experience fear, respond to it and also act in spite of it is an aim of anxiety counselling that can generate increased confidence and a more satisfying life experience. Learning to contact their fear and be with it until it simply subsides, clients can experience significant relaxation and calm compared to the relentless agitation and despair that comes with being imprisoned by anxiety.
Anxiety from Internal Conflict
In counselling, my Vancouver clients will tell me they don’t understand where their anxiety comes from. They no longer know why they are anxious or what they are afraid of. Sometimes anxiety arises from some form internal conflict, for example someone who wants to live a more authentic existence where they can express their creativity and spontaneity but they are afraid that they will let go too much, lose their discipline and become flaky or frivolous. The urge to let go and live more freely is experienced as a very real threat, inner conflict is created and anxiety results. In counselling people can learn to integrate these apparently opposing concerns. Fear once faced and held can dissipate and one can then consider the real implications as well as possible benefits of allowing a change.
The process is of learning to be compassionate and inclusive rather than judgmental and critical especially in regards to oneself.
Anxiety can have many different causes and manifests in a variety of different forms. Some of the more severe forms are described as anxiety disorders with different disorders having markedly different characteristics. Anxiety and depression are often experienced together.
Types of Anxiety Disorders
- Panic Disorder/Agoraphobia
- Specific Phobias
- Social Anxiety and/or Phobia
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder
If you believe you have an anxiety disorder it is important to seek treatment so that your condition doesn’t worsen unnecessarily.
Anxiety is extremely common and highly distressing experience. For people in Vancouver who are suffering with anxiety effective therapy is extremely important to find. Clients should expect to work collaboratively with their therapist to tailor-make a therapy that is uniquely suited to the client’s own needs, concerns, feelings and issues.
In effective counselling client and counsellor should work together to discover the cause of the anxiety and replace ineffective coping and defenses with new strategies, insights and behavior changes. Counsellors can be helpful by guiding the client gently toward what is deeply unsettling so it can be integrated, and clients can achieve the best results possible by actively engaging and exploring their own interior depths while attempting bold but gradual behavioural changes. This journey, undertaken with deliberation and audacity can produce much needed relief from the strain and constriction that is anxiety.